Testimonials. A call received by the Sikh HelpLine (1) 
He laughed in my face and said                      ‘whatever… Do one u kafar bitch
I was brought up by devout Sikh parents and from a young age I was taught the basics of Sikhi. MTestimonials. A call received by the Sikh HelpLine family were just the average working class people and we lived a westernised lifestyle. I had many privileges, one of which was being able to go into higher education and attend University through which I made many friends from all different faiths and backgrounds. During my years at university I befriended a young Muslim boy. I was aware that interfaith relationships were not accepted by my family; however, I did not let this stop me accepting the young boy’s offer of courting me.
I spent a lot of time with Naz, during my time at University we began to get closer to each other and began to build a relationship. All the negative things that were spoken about Muslims, to me I felt they were all wrong; Muslims were not that bad as people have said. Naz was nice to me he was genuine. He always told me he loved me and cared about me and someday would marry me. He was always taking me out and buying me gifts and showing gestures of affection. Just after our finals our relationship was getting stronger and by this point our relationship had become very intimate.
At University a talk was happening about real life cases on conversions and grooming. The matter interested me so I attended the talk. The speaker was a non Sikh who put forward many real life cases with recorded interviews with girls who had been victims of the Muslim prey. The lecture was a shock to my system, the speaker highlighted some points that seemed to hit a nerve but also opened a pool of knowledge that up until now I had been oblivious to. After the talk I felt so guilty knowing that I had been sleeping with a Muslim for the past four years.
I began to have serious thoughts about my future and realised if I married Naz I would have to convert to a Muslim and my children would be Muslims and their children and every generation to come. I would have to sacrifice my Sikhi and that of all my family including my future generations to the Islamic religion, and all because of my actions. If I stayed with Naz my children would be deprived of going to the Gurdwara of where I have grown up and instead would have to go to the mosque. My parents have given me so much freedom to have an education, dress how I please and have never forced me to practice Sikhism; they have allowed me to live an equal life to my brothers and have never treated me any different to them, this would all change if I stayed and married this Muslim boy.
I met Naz a few days later and told him about my feeling and I was upset, I wanted to break off from the relationship because I was worried what’s going to happened after marriage and the reaction I got made me cringe and sick, I wished that I could turn the clock back and never allowed such scum in to my life. He laughed in my face and said ‘whatever… Do one u kafar bitch’ and those words till this very day ring in my ears’ I realise, he just wanted me to become Muslim and that is all he wanted. I was so so stupid thinking “he love me”.
I was in a deep sense of shock I felt dirty and unclean I felt so used and ashamed of myself and ashamed of what I had done. I was at such a low point i did not know what to do or who to talk to I had come across the Sikh helpline on Facebook so I contacted the helpline.
They were so understanding and sympathetic and put me at ease. I explained to them what had happened to me and how I was feeling about myself, they did not judge me, they were very supportive and helped me. I would like to thank the sevadaars for helping me sort out my life and stopping me form losing all hope and faith, they made me realise that my Sikhi and my gurus are there to help me no matter what.
I would like to share my story with everyone, but especially the sisters who are in the false Illusion that I was under with this Muslim boy. He did not love me or care for me, no matter how genuine they seem to  be.________________________________________The SikhHelpline needs your support